*NOTICE: I am a proponent of free speech, and the ability to express yourself openly.
I also believe in the power one has to avoid circumstances in which they are uncomfortable.
Negotiation and consent are also very important to me.
If you are triggered easily or do not like subjects involving religion, politics, or sex, I urge you to please click away and have a pleasant day.*
I was raised on "Thought for the Day" ~ I love them and continue to do my own version each and every day. Another way I get thoughts for the day is through my mother. A very spiritual person, she sends
out "Thought for the Day/Prayer Requests" emails. Usually her 'thoughts'
are spot on and very meaningful to me. Today's is no exception - this one has been meaningful
all of my life, Anais Nin's quote is one I adore, and I wanted to share.
Lessons repeat themselves until we learn them.
we hear a wake-up call but prefer to pull the covers over our heads so
we can slumber and dream a little longer. We may ignore, resist,
rationalize, or deny reality for a considerable time. That’s okay – our schooling is entirely self-paced, but the lessons keep coming until our actions change.
If we don’t learn the easier lessons, they get harder.
Resistance to learning (or change) reaps more dramatic consequences over time – not to punish us but to get our attention. As
Anaïs Nin wrote, “There came a time when the risk to remain tight in a
bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
We learn and grow through challenges,
and every adversity has hidden gifts.
We’ve all experienced physical, mental, and emotional pain. Yet each challenge has brought a greater measure of strength, wisdom, and perspective. We
may not welcome a challenge or embrace unexpected change, loss or
disappointment, but looking back, and over time, we come to appreciate
the gifts of adversity.
This was an excerpt
from: The Four Purposes of Life: Finding Meaning and Direction in a
Changing Worldby Dan Millman
As a general update as to my health to my loved ones and friends:
Recently, I have been very ill. As most of you know, I have fibromyalgia. Since it is not a wide-known condition, if you are not familiar with it, please see the articles and information sources listed at the bottom of the post. This will help reduce questions you may have and allow you to have a better frame of reference for what I am going through.
My fibro has been flaring up increasingly frequency and intensity over the last few months to a point where it's been pretty crippling. I'm having difficulty keeping food down, the pain I feel is pervasive throughout my body, I have chronic fatigue and insomnia, among a myriad of other symptoms.
This has been very difficult for me ~ especially this informing those who love and care about me about what I've been going through. My Amandazonian SuperWoman fashion of tanking my way through it has led me to downplay talking about it as much as I should have. I know I'm ill, but I don't want my illness to define me
Rest assured I am taking multiple steps to get well.
I have lost over 40 lbs, I've changed my diet, exercise regularly - even if it's just a walk on bad days. I saw my doctor on Friday and we discussed treatment options. I've gotten some relief from the pain, inflammation, and insomnia through a combination of new medication and vitamins/herbs/stretching exercises. I also discovered I was having a negative reaction to one of my medications, and saw a specialist in regards to that. I know have a team of specialists who are assisting me with various courses of treatment during this time period.
I feel very confident that the various lifestyle and medicinal treatments will have a positive effect, and that I will recover from the severity of the flare up I'm struggling with right now. With the treatment options and adjustments I'm making I expect to have a better understanding of how treatment is progressing in 2-3 weeks with hopefully a marked improvement by 6 weeks.
Due to all this, I've been absent at work fairly frequently, which has led my employer to request I take time off to get better. At this point, I am unable to work. So I am in contact with them to discuss what will happen going forward.
In this same vein, I may have also not responded to texts and/or requests to go out, or seemed a bit off or odd. Please understand if this has happened, it reflects not on you or our relationship, but rather my health. And if I am able to do some things some days, those are turning more into my good days recently.
I don't wish to alarm any of you - simply inform you about what is going on with me, and let you know I am very thankful for the support structure I have - the people I'm fortunate to know and be friends with. The small reminders that I am cared for and loved really do bring a smile to my face, and that is the best way people contribute to helping me feel better.
5 DEADLY TERMS USED BY A WOMAN!!!
(1) FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when she knows she is RIGHT & YOU need to SHUT UP.
(2) NOTHING: means SOMETHING & you need to be worried.
(3) GO AHEAD: this is a dare, not permission, DO NOT DO IT.
(4) WHATEVER: A womans way of saying SCREW YOU.
(5) THAT'S OK: She is thinking long & hard on HOW & WHEN you will pay for your mistake.
And I want to post rants about it. I know people think it's funny, but it's only funny because it's so freaking true. Screw 'women' or 'men' they all have their speech patterns that say one thing and mean another.
It drives me nuts and makes me so frustrated. I think all that is just evidence of how poor communicators people have become. If something is *not* okay, say it's *not* okay!!! Mixed signals are funny to everyone who doesn't have to receive them. How much easier would it be to say "I don't like xxxx" than to live your life unhappy and miserable saying things are "Fine" over and over? Seriously, communication is only communicating when you say what you mean, otherwise, it's just confusing. And life is far too confusing already to add to it.
So for those of you who say "Go Ahead" when you really mean "That would really upset me, I'd rather we did XXX together instead, as I miss time with you." (Or WHATEVER) Take a moment before you utter one of those phrases above. Think about what you really mean. AND THEN SAY IT.
HONEST COMMUNICATION is a RADICAL concept.
Embrace your radical nature. Communicate